What is addiction? Addiction is the result of abuse. In addition, abuse is the imbalance of how you live. Sexologist in Delhi Too much of anything creates an imbalance.
We are all addicts of some sort, with some addictions being more sociably acceptable than others.
Part of the problem lies within the derogatory attitude people have towards the sociably unacceptable addicts. They are labelled and pushed aside, or shoved into rehab centres.
Whether rehab treatment is successful or not is questionable.
Even though individual rehabs stats show that the success rate is high; this is not accurate at all.
The problem in getting accurate stats lies with the following fact:
o People leave a rehab, have a relapse, and then very seldom go back to the same rehab. They make use of another rehab, leaving the first rehab declaring false statistics, showing close to 100% success rate.
I base all my findings on my personal experience and that of my research of six months at S.A.N.C.A. Florida, South Africa. I do not believe that you can guide people to their own truth if you have not experienced this yourself.
Then there is the false notion that the counsellors, social workers or therapists are doing an excellent job with the rehabilitation program. Most in-patients at rehabs do not have the slightest notion as to why they even started using drugs, alcohol, or both.
So, herein then the answer to what addiction is and where it comes from:
As I have already stated; addiction is only an imbalance of a person’s lifestyle.
I come from an abusive childhood, where my father was drinking too much, by far, and as a result, physically abused my mother, my younger brother, and myself to such an extent that we hid and slept in other peoples’ gardens many a night, for fear that my father would shoot us with my eldest brother’s army rifle.
We always had domestic violence of some degree, for as long as I can remember. To the extend t that we were labelled by the neighbours. Friday nights came and we knew the neighbours would call the police to come to our rescue. My sisters were thrown out of the glass doors many times. The example I received of how a father and husband should behave was not the ideal one, yet the only one. I was not exposed to other families and how other fathers and husbands treated their families, because we were labelled, and kids did not invite us to their homes, out of fear.
As an adult, I lived the example I got from my father and saw nothing wrong with my behaviour at first. I am a good person of soft nature and mean nobody any harm. This is similar to wife beaters. At first, a man will just push his wife, then slap her, then with a closed hand and maybe draw blood, and so it becomes progressively worse.
When we get to the stage when we realise that there is a problem, we blame the drugs or situation not the cause. The escapes become progressively worse and so does the method. This is the reason why so many people go back to rehabilitation centres, repeatedly.
In my experience, the incorrect approach (or rather an incomplete approach) is used to find out why this person repeats the pattern of abuse. They are not guided to find their lost tools they need to find out what it is they truly want. They are to find that spark again. “Show me what makes a man come alive and you will know the man”.
Because “we” society, and the therapists tell them that every day is a struggle and they are recovering addicts, they believe this because we are the experts on the topic. The reasons for abuse need to be addressed before any other therapy can take place. The person needs to find a way to look inside and guided to his/her own truth, as to what the root cause for this abuse is.
When a person abuses a substance he does it to get, the feeling of what he perceives how life ought to be. The substance gives the artificial vibe or feeling that is so desperately desired. The high or space you reached with the substance simulates the natural state of oneness with your creator, universe or god, in a space of nothingness, where we all originate from.
Thus, the continued use becomes (ab-use). This becomes repetitive and labelled ‘habitual personality.’ My observation has shown that highly spiritual beings are more likely to be abusers, such as painters, musicians, poets and actors.
The abusers and addicts are told by us society, that “addiction is hereditary”, and that it is a disease for which there is no outcome. Yes – addiction is hereditary, but it is hereditary through cellular memory, and not in terms of disease. The word disease (dis-ease) translates; ‘discomfort’. It is not a virus that is inhaled and which is not curable as is the popular belief. The person chooses the disease and not the disease the person. Therefore; the person can choose again, and he can choose differently. Society regards addicts as doomed for life to battle this ‘thing.’ Moreover, they give this doomed thing a name, with the name being YOU!
Addicts are convinced they will never recover, never be cured. Look at the word again: con-vinced. I say it is all a con!
Shouldn’t any person be better off after kicking a bad habit? You were just fine before you did all this non-sense. The belief is that an addict will never have a normal life and. This is taken as the truth.
Thank God, beliefs can change! In religion, this happens every day; we marry people from different religious belief groups. In order to do so we adopt another belief to get married.
A person’s brain can be retrained. People with brain injury are proving it. They get progressively better and not worse. This has been proven.
I invite you to come and join me on a one-day workshop where you will have the opportunity to discover why you do what you do, and how to de-cellular learn this behaviour.
Through playing games, music, and meditation, I have come to a self-help tool that lasts. Allow me to show you that you can burn that bridge called ‘addiction and abuse.’ This is cellular learning, and that makes for a workable society that flourishes in potential.